I was frustrated by the C. I'm not sure if, she was trying to keep my wife from getting defensive, or what. She gave us some "homework" - a packet where you write out stuff from your family of origin, and somehow translate this into the choices you make / should make for your mate. She said we choose our mate based on the wounds we're trying to heal from our childhood. And that this exercise is not about trying to "fix things" but to understand better for - I think she actually said this - our "next relationship."
Yeah, I was frustrated, if not mildly pissed off. Again, she may have been playing it cool to not alienate my W, but WTF?
She tried this packet on me the first session, and I said, I'm more interested in tools to help me in my goal of saving my marriage, so we had moved on.
This doesn't sound like a pro-marriage solutions-focused counselor and you should find another one you are more comfortable with.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
