He says him main motivation is not ending up poor and in a little apartment supporting me in this big house. He is not saying he would definitely do anything if I sign anything. He says "Then maybe we'll see". I refuse to get a legal separation. I we've been married six years and I have no idea about the alimony calculations. I told him I wasn't ready to talk money because I wasn't giving up on our marriage.
He is great with our son - in fact he says he wants joint custody and part of the problem is that he's taking out son at our house and can't prove that he is taking half time responsibility. I told him I am not comfortable with my son sleeping somewhere else half the time for now since he is only 4. His lawyer said he needs a bigger place with another room for S to show that he is providing for him half time. I don't know - it's a catch twenty two. It's like he claims maybe he'll work on the marriage if everything is lined up in his favor in case of divorce. He "doesn't think anything will change" so he has little hope of therapy helping reconciliation. In that case, he wants everything lined up in his favor. I don't like it. I don't want any of these things. I think if he gives us a chance over time my DB changes will take hold. I'm so furious that he is doing this. I called his bluff and said just get a D then. Serve me with papers. He won't. So that says something. I don't know why I hang on any nmore. I'm starting to think i should give up.
