There is a difference between understanding that your own actions can influence your R, and thinking you have control.

You can only control yourself.

It takes only one person to take an R or a M apart. It takes 2 to decide to reconcile. You only have one of those 2 votes.

You control how you act and react, but any belief that you control the R or the outcome is an illusion.

Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2
M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08
Walking away from a bad situation.

My Sitch

Strength and Compassion
No Resentment