Just found out - WAS involved with OM

[AnotherNightmare]

Right now I wouldn't take her back since she's been with another man.

You may want to think about that again, once the anger and pain have disappeared a little. As a first reaction, it is very understandable, but once you clear your head a little, there is a chance you want something different for you and your kids.

Also, a R or M can survive infidelity and become even stronger, but of course, it would require her to end the A permanently and show the remorse necessary to slowly rebuild trust.