Orich, I feel your pain Buddy. I have some of the same detaching issues that you do. I am consistantly amazed by the parallels of our stories.
Forgive me for not remembering all of the details, what is your wife's current hang up? She hasn't seen enough changes or just doesn't think it's "meant to be" because she doesn't feel "like she should?"
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.