Just Keep Livin' #3

[SavingMyMarriage]

I agree... thanks for sharing... I think my situation was similar... didn't think I needed to do any of those either (but I should've). My temper was okay, but I would always try to talk her into things... for example, if I wanted to go for a bike ride somewhere and she wanted to do something else, I would keep on talking her into it, until she would...very wrong. I learned the hard way to just ask once and respect her position... I didn't take care of the house much either, but I really made changes since January (did dishes, laundry, cleaned, etc). She said I became a "better roommate", not a better "husband". That really hurt, but maybe that's script.

One thing I didn't do is pay attn to her (I took her for granted). I rarely said she looked beautiful or I rarely complimented her on anything (hair, clothes, etc.). I thought it, but never said it... why? Because I was being a jerk I guess... she would compliment me and then I might make one back, but those types of compliments never came across as sincere. Now when I make any of them, she asks why I'm doing it or she just thinks I'm saying it because she's leaving...