Oh, RSF. I think about you a lot. I’m not sure what I would have done if my H had started up with someone like your W has. It’s hard and you are a brave man. I could be completely off here, so take this with a grain of salt and not as advice per se….BUT…. If I put myself in your wife’s shoes, where you left and I fought for the relationship, got tired and moved on…..what would it take for my H to save the marriage…..? That’s the million dollar question right? I think I would want him to be firm in his fight for me. But not annoying and pleading. Maybe every now and then just a quick comment that I’m not expecting….Hey, just wanted to remind you, I’m still in this for us.” And that’s it, nothing more….maybe as I’m hanging up the phone, or I just picked up the kid, whatever. Compliments would go a long way too. Sending me flowers with just his name on it would be sexy. I don’t know….actions that are almost like having an affair with my H without the guy I’m dating knowing….it’s exciting. I tend to believe you have an opportunity to be the OM.
