4. as an aside...and im sure most of us LBS get this. my wife said that everytime me cuddle, she feels "pressured" to have sex. I find that so weird especially since we havent had sex in 5 months and the sex life was sporadic prior to that.
Back when I'd lost sexual attraction to my H, I felt this way as well. We all want physical touch...and all I really wanted were the hugs and cuddles. However, I was always on guard because I didn't want to set off the "launch sequence." It seemed like any time I was at all physically affectionate, H took it as an invitation for sex...made me nutty.
BTW, sometimes women DO just want to cuddle. If you can give us that without proceeding further (in a M that's working of course), then it usually bodes well for sex later. The cuddles fill a different need for me.
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
