Need Advice, WAW wants to give it a month

[trrose]

For myself, after the A officially stopped (but W was still in WAW and wanting OM mode). I insisted on doing stuff to try and re-kindle the spark - the same one she felt we lost long ago and might never get back. I planned trips away for just the 2 of us on anniversaries and birthdays, recruited family to take care of the kids, dated her at least once a week. Don't get me wrong - it ws hellishly difficult, and I alternated between that and detaching when I felt I had to. It was also immensely frustrating to hear her say time and time again that it wasn't working, how she feels nothing when we kiss, how pressurised she feels when we DO kiss since she knows I'm trying to get that spark back for us.

Deep, that is incredible...i have some questions for you...and in fact everyone:

1. How did you find out there was OM?
2. How were you able to get over it?
3. How do you feel confident in your mind that it wont happen again? For all the others out there..i wouldnt mind reconciling with my wife but what i dont want is to go thru this every yeat or 5 years.

4. as an aside...and im sure most of us LBS get this. my wife said that everytime me cuddle, she feels "pressured" to have sex. I find that so weird especially since we havent had sex in 5 months and the sex life was sporadic prior to that.