As simple as it sounds ... some men just need a challenge.
AMEN!
A/K. just do it.
you do not need to get yourself a male escort. Just get acquainted. Interact. You will be suprised at how quick "they" pick up on the fact that you are not waiting around thinking and pining about them.
You asked for Gucci's advice specifically, so I will not butt in. But I want to add one point: spend some time reading threads from men who have WAW and study what they say their wifes say to them. What is called "Script" on this site. Add it to your vocabulary. Your husband will be the one walking around questioning what is in the water. SMcQ