I have received similiar advice from a couple friends that I trust. I talked to W this morning and said that I would like a legal seperation document in place before moving money around. She agreed and said she would hold off moving until we had something in place.
I do not like getting lawyers involved, but I don't know how else to handle this.
Last night I talked to MIL. She told me that she is sorry and thinks that I should just move on. W doesn't love me and I should just go on with my life. That was a hard pill to swallow. I know MIL is trying hard to get W to reconsider, but W seems to have a one track mind right now.
The last couple of days things between W and I have been very business like. Almost no emotion from either of us. For me it is just a shell, inside I am numb. Sometimes I wonder if I even want to be married to this woman anymore. She has changed so much from the woman I married. I know I am responsible for part of that, and her illness is another part. But there is a part that she herself is playing in this too. She is not the same. And I am wondering if the original W will ever be back. I realized last night that W was planning to move the same week that D5 starts kindergarten. I mentioned cynically that it will be a great first week for D5. Her reply, "She is a kid. She doesn't know any better." This is the same woman that would not let the same child cry for more than a minute without picking her up to comfort her after she was born.
