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Hello GIMA and Sandi,

Thank you very much to responding to my posts. I knew I could count on you guys.

My W has agreed to attend Retrovaille (I believe Oct 16). I have heard great things about this retreat. I pray that it brings my W and I onto the same page. I wish it were sooner that Oct 16.

During our conversations, she told me that I "shot down" her attempts at working things out. I mentioned to her that her attempts came across half-hearted. She was still looking at real estate at this time. She bought NFL football tickets for me and my son (and it was very nice of her), but I didn't need material things to make our relationship work...I needed one-on-one quality time. I gave her the 5 Love Languages book 3 weeks ago to read and she only got through part of it. That is the only thing I asked of her...just to read this book... and spend quality time with ME. I don't think that was shooting her down. My mistake was that I should have accepted anything she had to offer at the time and just be patient for the other things to come. Hindsight is 20/20. I hope she can still open up again.

Sandi and GIMA: what should I do during the next 7-8 weeks while we wait for Retrovaille? I'm thinking about acting as if everything is working out. This takes the anxiety out of my day-to-day interactions with my W. Also, should I take her Retrovaille acceptance as a positive or is she just trying to lessen the guilt she has over this whole situation?

Please provide any guidance or support if you have it. I could use all the help I can get. I'll even accept step-by-step instructions to help me get my W back. Please continue reading my stitch.

Thanks,
LFH