You know that what she is doing is to be expected. It sounds like you are just tired and a little pi$$ed off. I don't blame you. But, unless you want to give up, you have to deal with it a little longer (maybe a good bit longer).
When we all made the decision to fight this new challenge in our lives, we understood and accepted it would not be easy, it would not be a two way street as our M's were supposed to have been, and that WE would have to be the ones to do most, if not all, of the work for quite a while.
Hope you are just venting, and that's perfectly fine. Just take a deep breath and ask yourself what it is you want and hopefully the answer is what will be the best for you and your family.