Yeah, I did do that. But at this point, I'm just sick of this person. He set himself up for it and walked into a trap and validating his feelings...wasn't interested. He deserved everything he got that night.
I do love him. I do want to have a stronger new marriage with him. BUT as he continues to set himself up in hopes of proving to himself he was more than a joke to this idiot, I will have no sympathy for him. I won't even try to stop him.
And I'm very confident he no longer has the same feelings for her. He actually does dislike her and thinks little of her, but yet, he still needs the proof he was more than just a cure for boredom. So if you are going to be stupid, expect to feel stupid. IMO, if you have to "win" then cut off all contact, ignore the person. Then you have no more drama while sending a very very poiginant message....."YOU don't matter to ME."
It's mostly ugly and admittedly mean of me, but I don't feel sorry for him. Validating his feelings related to this crap....not my job anymore. I'm done with all of it.
Now with all of that said, I am still working on our relationship and validating in other areas....he's stressed about a family member who is not doing well and will be leaving us soon. I feel horrible for him for that. They are pretty close.
Work is stressing him out too and this is another tricky one for us. One of the reasons, I believe work is an issue is because of him basically crapping where he eats. He's concerned about his reputation there now. I understand this and again, it's his fault, but I am being supportive here.
We may have a buyer for our house which would be GREAT! And we found them so there's no real estate agent involved and that would save a great deal of money too. We are very much talking/working as a team for this one.
We've always been a team with S.
And again, he gets huge points for some things in recent weeks he's done as it relates to me and to us.
