If you have chance to answer any ?s above would be so grateful (in terms of what to do/say if he brings up D upon his return - I want to be prepared and not lose it!) Or how to make him still feel 'manly'?
No pressure BE and act happy.
How do you talk about divorce without putting pressure on a person?
Answer: Agree with them. " Yes, I guess you are right, we should get the divorce moving."
AND THEN do nothing and let him do the work on it. Telling them that you don't want it never seems to work. When you agree with them it usually results in them doing nothing and gets them to start to re-examine their position.
Just happily agree. No pressure to stop it and then do nothing and assume he will do all the work for it. Telling him you don't agree with it is pressure. Pressure doesn't work.
