Over the Shock and GALing 6

[Sara]

You've got 3 or 4 weeks, I can't keep straight when you and Orich go to your weekends. So, until then, I think you should treat her like a new girlfriend who you just started having this sexual affair with. Fun, light, playful, sexy. You could buy her that maid's costume at Victoria's Secret, and ask her to dust the bedroom in it, for example. Or some other little tidbit at Victoria's Secret or Frederick's that turns you on. don't get raunchy with it, but something that involves little gifts for her can't be bad - candles, massage oil, lingerie, perfume...

[Thinker]

Retro is on Sept 18th

[Sara]

You'll get there. You know, there are Retrouvaille babies. We have a couple in our group that conceived at Retrouvaille.

[Thinker]

Thanks Sara,

I'm not sure we are ready for that, but maybe I am reading things too conservatively. She is still very tentative about this part of the R.

We are also going to be spending most of the next 2 weeks visiting her sick mom - time for me to be supportive and in the background, but I don't expect any real R changes between now and Labor Day - just a lot of family time and a number of stressful days driving in the car with 3 small children.

[Thinker]

You'll get there. You know, there are Retrouvaille babies. We have a couple in our group that conceived at Retrouvaille.

LOL

Well, that won't be happening to us - I took care of the possibility of conception last year

[Sara]

ok, traveling with 3 children is hard enough! How far do you have to drive?


Yes, the fun will have to be before the visit, but being supportive is a wonderful gift that you can give her.

[Thinker]

To be clear, it does not feel like we are starting a second honeymoon here. Things are still tense. My W is still uncomfortable and unhappy. We're not talking more or being more intimate in other ways. The only thing that has changed is that Mrs. Thinker seems to have decided that she wants to try, and part of that trying includes trying sex again.

[Sara]

for baby steps, those are huge. As SP says, roll with it.

[Thinker]

In the car - 9 hours to go.

[Thinker]

Survived 11 hours in the car with S6 and S4 trying sucessfully to make each other angry and S1 (re)discovering his lungs.

No major fights between W and me, but the trip didn't do our R any favors either.

Am now in "be confidently supportive" mode.