Hey S, your h is going through a lot of feelings right now. He is trying to figure things out, work it all out in his head.
And while I know that you were trying to make him feel better about himself, when he said how he feels, you kinda turned it around to be about you, ya know? You know him best, so maybe that is what he needed, just an observation.
Really, it is best to just validate his feelings and let him work through it in his own time, his own way. He needs to go through all of it to come out the other side whole.
