Hello Kittyfish & Sandi2!

[BigJohn]

Sandi,

They are very concerned about my W ending up with OM, no doubt about it. Understandably they hate this SOB OM along with the rest of the extended family- he will never be accepted by anyone. Most definitely, both of my sons will hate this prick not to mention harbor much anger towards my W for breaking up our family. Yet, according to my W, there is very little possibility of her and OM getting together as he won't move to Calif. and she can't move back there because of the kids. Still, she refuses to give up having an A with OM and since OM has nothing going for himself- and absolutely nothing at stake- this A has the potential to go on for a very long time. Meanwhile, my W tells me how she would rather live alone with the kids- I'm no longer an option since OM has "opened her eyes to what she has been missing"- and if "Mr. Right" happens to walk into her life, great!

Of course, as part of her ideal situation, I am supposed to move out of the house, pay mucho child and spousal support and if I'm lucky, she'll let me see the kids on the weekends.

It's tough. I'm fighting to save our M and my W- in her own passive/aggressive way- is trying to bust our M. She really wants me to hate her enough so I file for D so she doesn't have to.

I don't know what it is going to take to ring my W's bell at this point. I have a sinking feeling that it's going to take A LOT. So right now I'm looking at S with her in the hopes that maybe if she experiences the costs associated with running two households, sharing the kids 50/50 along with all of the other negatives maybe she will reconsider wanting to work with me on our M. Plus, I just need space from her and her attitude right now.