Trying to cope with H, IA/EA (was Newbie-1st post)

[Faith2010]

Thanks for checking in CP, GIMA, & Puppy.

I do agree OW's H has a right to know. For some reason I keep going round and round about it and I don't know exactly why.

GIMA- S is okay. Very, very mad at his dad. Unfortunately H does not do much to break down the barrier. H feels he's the parent and does not have to answer to S while S has little respect for H thus leaving them at odds. I hate watching their relationship deteriorate and step in when needed but H needs to man up and fix what he broke.

H is back on the "I'm so tired of living this way, I need to make a decision." This time, instead of telling him what has to be done (i.e. no contact with OW), I just said I don't know where I'm going to be(in reference to our M). H indicated he realizes that but needs to figure out what he's going to do.

I can feel that hope/desire to get things back on track rising but at the same time, I am keeping it at bay. The last time H did this I got ahead of myself and ended up falling hard.

I'm having a hard time with some of my friends. They really don't understand why I stay. I have tried to explain but I don't think they get it. Sometimes I feel they think I'm stupid for not leaving.