Need Advice, WAW wants to give it a month

[Thinker]

You are right, in particular this:

[He didn't force her and he would have respected her if she did in fact say NO and meant it wholeheartedly.

and this

something inside of her really enjoyed this aggressive behavior on his part, something unexpected, something exciting, something maybe she's been missing for quite some time.

I had been receiving subtle hints on this second part for a while.

the main question in my mind was timing - "is the sitch ready for this, or would I just do more damage and suffer a painful rejection" - That's where the final acceptance of "What's she going to do, Divorce me?" comes in. I am truly at the point where I have no desire to go back to our old marriage, and would rather proceed to D than stay in limbo where we are. So what did I have to lose?

In my sitch, one of the major R issues was / is my inability to calmly hold difficult conversations with my W. I would either retreat into silence, or lash out with angry criticism. Either way I lost. The more our R went downhill, the more my W controlled things as I tried to keep the peace in the M. The more I gave up things to keep the peace and try desperately to hold the M together, the more respect my W lost for me.