Well there are no custody arrangements. He left and we've been taking it one week at a time. Sometimes, I wanted to go out at night, sometimes he did, so we were flexible with each other. He felt I "controlled" the schedule for many months because I am an actress and I am given an evening schedule of rehearsals and shows two months in advance. I still don't know why this bothered him so much, because even when I got a babysitter to free him up to go out whenever he wanted, he still was angry. So I'm letting him have control now, hoping that will stop some of his excuses for being angry at me. He can't say I have any control any more.
so tonight over dinner he has a habit of being too firm with our son who is four. If S fools around at all, he puts S in bed for the rest of the night. He doesn't want me "interfering with his parenting method" but I just think it's too stressful and hurtful for S. H feels undermined by me and when I said S had "one more chance to behave at table" b/c I feel the important thing is that he EAT not be PUNISHED, H gets furious at me, starts yelling and being rude, goes to a corner, pouts, and refuses to talk to any of us. It's painful but for once (180) he is not getting a rise out of me. H is Punishing me. I won't take it. I'm going out for a walk for a couple hours. BUt ouch!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!11
