Yeah, I hate the controls. He feels he really needs them now. He did eventually call to say when he was coming over but you're right, I do not need to let him have that power. I can just make my own plans and not assume I can count on him for anything.
He is constantly on the text/email/phone contraption - usually as a way to tune us out. I have no idea if it's work related or OW. I am choosing not to worry about it until I know something for sure. HOwever it drives me crazy when he's constantly on that thing instead of being present. Again, trying not to let this have any power over me, I expect no less.
He's still holding out power over our therapy sessions (MC). Our last ( and third session) he said he saw "no convincing evidence that anything will change so why should he waste his time." I bought the bait and got depressed for half a day. That was a week ago. Today he says he "wants to talk to me about the big picture" of going back to therapy. Basically, I'm going to get a litany of how things will be all his way or not. I feel like anyway is better than not so although I feel like a sucker, I'm going to let him have his control. Again, facing I can't rely on him, so he may never come back, he may walk away from the marriage, I can't control it. Cross your fingers for me.
