I wouldn't say anything to him about the townhouse, as he's not said he's coming with you. And...well, don't be surprised if he retreats a bit. This is a rollercoaster ride, and while I think your H will eventually fully remove his head from his butt, I'd be surprised if he's fully done with spending some time up there.

But you just keep on with the same response while he spins and works to coming to the same conclusion you did: only HE can change himself and his happiness. He has to learn that the externals have little to do with our personal happiness and everything to do with how we change ourselves.

Let him bring up anything he wants to bring up...until he says otherwise, operate As If whatever he told you before is in full effect. And then, smile on the inside.

SD

Me: 40
H: 43
H had EA from 2/06-9/06
Bomb 5/06
Piecing since 9/2006
3/2008: Boundary setting
7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb.
8/2010: Marriage finally on track!