Perhaps it is simply teaching you that you are ok all by yourself. You don't need a crutch you are highly capable on your own. Everyone is dealing with this new development and are caught up in their own feelings. So now, it is time for you to take care of you. Get yourself to where you are good again and then when the kids can sense that, I believe they will be there asking you what to do!

Hugs, kat

Me-53(and learning!)
S24, S21, D18, D17
Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory