I will not disagree that I am emotionally tied to my children. I have not detached from my XW as much as I had thought. At the same time, family is everything toI think what makes it more challenging when the kids are with the other parent is that we aren't together as a family.
Being emotionally tied to your kids is a great thing IMO. I know what you mean about the difference between them being at other activities and then not seeing them b/c they are living some place else. It's hard. I'm fortunate that I haven't had much of that...yet.
I know that we need to detach from our other halves, it seems to go against the grain to not go there. Like you, I haven't detached the way I probably should. However, I've got a great "gut" (as it were) and while it may be against common thought, I'm hangin' in there. "When the world says, "Give up," Hope whispers, "Try it one more time."~Author Unknown
As for you being "daft"...hardly. I think you have terrific insight. Could you be wrong? Sure. Given the man you have shown yourself to be here over the years though, I doubt you will regret it.
If you ever need to "talk" you can always find me in FB.
and while it may be against common thought, I'm hangin' in there. "When the world says, "Give up,"