Originally Posted By: trrose

Here is a partial list:

1. didnt communicate constructively when something was bothering me./
- i would withdraw when my W would nag instead of confronting the issue and how it made me feel
-i would dig at her at times instead of expressing my anger

2. i should have listened more instead of offering solutions

3. can lose my temper when my W says something that i disagree with or when i thing she says something outrageous
4. i tend to exaggerate at times and can be dramatic
5. prior to my W dropping the bomb i did not help out enough around the house with the cooking and cleaning..not fair to her since we both work.


Holy cow, I could have listed all of the above complaints about my H except for #5. And for me, #1 was the biggie. Once that was taken care of, the M moved forward DRAMATICALLY.

SD


Me: 40
H: 43
H had EA from 2/06-9/06
Bomb 5/06
Piecing since 9/2006
3/2008: Boundary setting
7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb.
8/2010: Marriage finally on track!