Need Advice, WAW wants to give it a month

[SDFoundGirl]

I agree, there definitely was a path, and unless the other conditions were in place, it wouldn't have worked.

It does no good to go up to your WAS and do something like that...but for where my H and I are in our process (we're both committed, both have been working for a long time to improve our M and will continue to do so), something like that would keep me more interested in our sex life. However, if the other stuff weren't fixed...well, I think I'd just want to punch him.

I respect my H now as a person (since he's TCB and put on his big boy pants), so that sort of sexual advance would be amazing. So I guess the applicable piece for you guys who were wondering what was in our minds is that the other garbage has to be taken care of BEFORE we feel like having sex.

So...your W says she's not sexually attracted to you anymore...what's missing? In what other ways aren't you meeting her needs as a man? An A is not THE problem; it's a symptom of the issues in the M. Lack of sexual attraction isn't THE problem; it's a symptom of other issues in the M, especially for women.

What have your W's said in the past? What would you say are your issues?

SD