In other words....it can be overcome. That knowledge, that secret-which-isn't-a-secret but feels so mysterious, so impossibly unattainable at the start, at the ILYBNILWY, at the moment the walls of your personal Jericho come crashing down? That knowledge is Pure Gold, gold in your hands.
Because once you know it -- and you only know it when you've detached, when you've Lived the Spiers Doctrine, when you've asked, as my Main Man @Thinker has, what's the worst s/he can do -- divorce you? -- once you know it, you've got the power. The world is again yours.
That, IMO, is the Genius of the DB way. By acknowledging you have no control, by focusing on making yourself yourself, you gain that control. And maybe, just maybe, you gain the courage to come to grips with the cruelest and the sweetest reality of them all -- not only "can" you survive, you will survive. And with style.
Keep your mojo working, friends.
Thank you SP.
Me 56 H 47 Married 21 years No children Bomb & moved out 4/07 "My feelings have changed" & "I want to live by myself". Ow Bomb 8/07 H filed 6/08 D final 2/05/10
