My wife claims to have no sexual desire for me...but does desire to have sex...(translation i want to have sex just not with you...touching)
she also says that she wants passion, intimacy (the MC said she is not capable of it)...when i mentioned there are ways to recreate passion, she said, "when did we ever have it?" I had to remind her we were pretty passionate before the wedding and things seemed to slow down after
Oh, well that explains it. You're married to MY wife.
As you see, there's a clear pattern in these things. So don't take offense when people press you on the question of her possible interest in another (or, as my WAW liked to put it, her "distraction"). I resisted the inquiry, too -- so imagine my surprise when I learned that @robx and @Puppy Dog Tails and @everyone else who asked "is there OM?" were validated by WAW herself.
Smiley, with all due respect, he is actually not married to your wife. We have to be careful to impart but not project. Not all WASs are the same.
AAK, I think this was just an honest attempt at some humor on SP's part: sometimes he succeeds, sometimes.... I thought it was kind of funny (SP's Wild Wild West & European Comedy show).
AAK you are right, not all WAS's are the same but there tends to be commonality that exists with their mindsets & rationalizations. Will all WAS's have affairs... probably not. 100% would be unrealistic. I don't know what the % but if I'm a betting man I think it would be pretty high, 60-70% I don't think would be unrealistic, I think if anything my guess, if you could actually get a real figure from some statistics somewhere, would be on the low side.
Oh, hope I didn't sound to harsh, SP and I are friends.
My only issue with this topic is that often it is easy to point to OM when the on the verge WAS may have very deep and very valid reasons for feeling as they do and the LBS may really need to look at his/her part and the variables within the R. Don't know if that makes sense.
My H at one point told me he was convinced that I must be having an affair because I wasn't into having sex with him. It was ridiculous. Our marriage was not working, our finances were a mess (some of the TCB I brought up)...the sex, when we did have it was really anticlimactic and of course, he boiled it down to that I must be boning another guy if I'm not interested in him. I see it as a very male mindset. I wanted a healthy sex-life but it was hardly the first thing on my mind. More than that, I wanted a feeling of security and partnership and yes, that I was with a grown man.
I want to answer all of the other questions too. But, need to concentrate to do it (pretty distracted but interested in this thread)...
SDFound- I related to your post very much...similar sitch.
