I'm in the middle of my own drama right now and I haven't read your entire thread yet but this has been repeated several times around the board:
Good mood (from a WAS with an OP) = bad for you Bad mood = good for you
If he's down, something is definitely wrong.
Stay quiet and patient.
Me 56 H 47 Married 21 years No children Bomb & moved out 4/07 "My feelings have changed" & "I want to live by myself". Ow Bomb 8/07 H filed 6/08 D final 2/05/10
