Hello Kittyfish & Sandi2!

[BigJohn]

I can't think of anything much worse to have to live in when a couple is "done" with their M and having to stay under the same roof.

Sandi,

It's not easy, that is for sure. Right now, she is "done" with our M and does not want to work with me on a "new" M. I don't want the old M either. I'm not done fighting yet- at least for a new M- but I am "done" with her attitude and selfishness.

The reason I say this is b/c she needs to have the romantic vale removed from that R with the OM. It needs to sound as ugly as it really is--instead of how she has it imagined in her mind. It isn't some high school fling....it is adultry and it needs to be exposed for what it is. Do the kids know about OM and what their mother did while on the trip? How does she act around them? How do they feel about her?

I have underscored the sleaziness of it all with her but she just won't see the A for what it is. It's all about not being happy with me, according to her. No personal accountability on her part whatsoever. My sons know something is up with my W, they just don't know exactly what her problem is. I'm pretty sure the kids don't know what she did on the trip- they were pretty involved with playing with their cousins.

I don't know, I'm blowing off steam as if I'm part of the family here. I should be giving you encouragement instead of talking like this. But it makes me angry at her to treat her family the way she has. BTW, do you have copies of her cell phone bill where she's contacted OM? Maybe your BIL could send a notorized statement of how she behaved while on the trip.....I don't know b/c I've not been down this road.

Everyone is pissed off at my W. My BIL has written her off completely after OM threatened him and my W backed up OM. My BIL and W are no longer speaking to each other. My BIL has told me "just divorce her a$$". I have another SIL and BIL that are equally upset over my W's behavior. My FIL and MIL are very upset and would like to see my W and I reconcile. Everyone on my side of the family are pissed and think our M is over.

BTW, California is a no-fault divorce state so all of the crap my W has pulled thus far is moot.

As always, thanks again for your support and encouragement Sandi.