Not that I'm an expert at this, but I can tell you what helped in my sitch. The saying that you should not listen to any of what they tell you and half of what they do was helpful. Most of what they say changes, depending on their constantly swirling emotions. I made the big mistake of actually believing what my W told me, rather than what she actually did. Even then, though, it was hard to NOT be swayed by every comment of hers, no matter how small. Hang in there. You are stronger than you think.
Random ... I just got a motorcycle yesterday! It's still a little hot, but VERY fun!
