Orchid

[MsMelancoly]

Hey Orchid1, Good to hear that you are keeping a PMA. Your work schedule sounds quite grueling. Good to hear you took a day off for yourself.

I agree with MJ & wear something business sexy, that's what I did. I don't want to scare you, but you will have to take the stand & answer some questions. Mostly, if what is on the paperwork is true. The other question you will get asked is if you think the M is irreverically (sp?) broken. That question through me for a loop. I answered yes. Why? Well, because my H had left me almost 2 years ago & I was ready to end it myself, I didn't feel the need to blame him because that would not bring us closer together. I know it doesn't really make sense - yet what of this does?

As I said before, my xh said the same thing - get D & then maybe date. I believe, that is the little boy in them trying to wipe the slate clean & start over because they do not have the knowledge or strength to find or try another way. (The little boy is winning out over the man in making decisions). They do not understand that emotional support & security (not being abandoned) is #1 on our list.

As for going out after, who knows. I mean I wanted to do that with my xh after D. Yet, my sitch was different. Like I said, I had way more time to adjust to the fact. In your shoes, I would be confused, hurt & angry about that offer. Yet, just because you get D does not mean that your H doesn't care about you or love you. He just doesn't know what makes him happy nor how to find the road back to a happy M. After D, my xh & I walked to our cars together & chatted. For the 1st time in 2 years he actually said 1st that he loved me & that he would always love me. That was something I had always known. We even kissed & hugged a few times. What was the driving factor in my xh to D? I believe, Guilt of leaving me, guilt of his debts, pride, society, the little boy in him making the decisions, as well as not having the tools, knowledge nor strength to take the long road back of repairing our M.

I was wondering if your D was in Milw - that's where I am. Sorry to hijack your thread.