I've been in the infidelity forum for over two years. Wow, that's a long time. I am in the process of divorce now. I filed in June 2009. He filed in June 2007, but dismissed it in July 2008 saying we were going to work things out. To summarize my sitch. H left in on Oct. 2006. He denied having OW, but of course there was one. It was his secretary. What a cliche!
He played both of us for way too long, he would tell me he was going to end it with her, but he never would. I told him that until she was out of the office, we couldn't move forward. I compared his addiction to her as an alcoholic having a drink in front of him daily. I finally said enough is enough and filed. They continue to be involved. I have no hope or want of reconciliation.
I have met a wonderful man about a month ago. I'm not sure where it will go, but I am enjoying being treated with respect. He is smart, funny, and a gentleman. He still is of the old schol that a gentleman opens doors and even car doors for a lady.
LIfe does get much better. It took me a long time to see that, but it's so nice to be off of the egsshells!
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
