I know many others will say it is too early for you to date. I think it is a good idea for you to pursue this in whatever time frame you feel comfortable with. First of all, you have spent years trying to work with Dan and his weird personality, to no avail. You need to stop beating your head against a brick wall, and see some sunshine in your life. And secondly, if there is anything that may influence Dan, it will be seeing you really move on. But I am not saying to do this to make Dan have a response. I'm just saying that it could be something that Dan will respond to. At that time you will have a choice to either continue with the divorce and find love with a new man, or going back with Dan. And it is better to have a choice, than to have no choice. Right now, you have no choice. If you start dating, you will have the ability to choose to love a new person, and perhaps the choice to go back with Dan.
