H has gone to extreme measures to keep me from seeing things. H got a lock for his computer case that my S saw this past week and told me about. I was infuriated and couldn't keep my mouth shut. Of course, H turns it around on me like it's such a shame he can't have a little privacy. Ironically, H said he got the lock a few weeks ago yet I hadn't tried to snoop therefore was unaware.
Hi Ashley,
I would tell your husband "Privacy is wanting the door closed when you go to the bathroom. What you are doing is 'keeping secrets,' and it has no place in a marriage."
I think you should expose the affair to the OW's husband. There's a chance he already knows (or suspects), but he may not. Why should he be the ONLY one in the mix (of the four) that doesn't know the truth? He has a right to know it, and to make his own decisions accordingly for his own family, in my opinion.
