Waiting More Than a Dozen Years

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I've read all the recent posts and to all of you, thank you.

I am packing stuff up, organizing papers, throwing stuff away I no longer need. I have the house to myself this weekend, so it's relatively quiet.

As I was going through the books to throw out and the books to keep, I was sorting through the ones on my sex, love and intimacy bookshelf, there was a book that I had not seen in a while: Divorce Busting. In hardcover, bought back in 1993, the jacket long since worn off.

I knew this all had a familiar ring to it. Now I know why.

Anyway, while taking a break to make some coffee this morning I got came to see what's new. There on the AOL entry page was the following article.

http://www.aolhealth.com/healthy-living/relationships/having-one-baby

Some have wondered why my first marriage keeps coming up for me. It was a sudden, unexpected loss for me. It's part of a pattern where thing go unexpectedly off track and don't turn out anything like I envisionsed it.

Read this article and it largely tracks my first marriage. The biggest difference was when my wife and I went out on those dates...she got angry at me for focusing on her and not on our son (and by accusation, not loving our son as much as she did).

But here is the kicker in the last paragraph on the first page of the article:

For a time, I wondered if I wasn't a modern day Demeter -- one of those women who, upon having a child, find their men to be superfluous. Rather than focusing on their husbands and affectionately tolerating children underfoot, they adore their children and value men for the security they provide, but little else.


Exactly!

And the thing about that paragraph...my ex-wife uses "Demeter" in her email address as her "call sign"

Well back to work.