Something snapped in me last night. The wife called late about 920 and proceeded to tell me about her day again. I didn't say a whole lot and she asked to speak to D. Well, I went to check on D and she was asleep. I told the wife and then proceeded to tell that she needed to pay on her car note as the dealer that she traded her car into had not paid it off yet. She said, oh, it's not paid off? I said, no. She says, I had to work late. I said, I don't care, that's not my problem. I said, you don't intend to come home, do you? She said, nope. I said, ok, your right, it probably won't work out anyway. I said, from now on I won't be accepting your phone calls. I said, you can converse w/ via email regarding our D. Outside of that, don't contact me. (throw in some explicit language) What do you mean, she asks? I said, I don't know how more clear I can be. She said, I can't believe you're being so ugly. I said, ok, I'm not going to debate with you. BTW, don't call so late anymore. You wouldn't accept calls from me that late and I won't from you. You're a wonderful wife and mother. Have a fabulous life and I hung up.
Sooooo....What does she do? Yep, she contacts me via email about the house at work and asks me when I'm going to sell. No response from me. Then she emails and says that she wants to move back in and let me move out so she can have D. No response from me.
Ugh, needless to say, I didn't sleep very well last night. Hopefully the lawyer will have something promising to say although I'm not counting on it.
Last edited by AFWAW; 08/18/0911:54 PM.
M-41 ex-W-40 Together--17 years SS-20 D-14 Bomb--2 Feb 09 WAW--6 Feb 09 Officially divorced on 2 Jun 2010!!! ex-W has a boyfriend 8 Jun 2010!!! Off we go into the wild blue yonder!!!!
You are married to a narcissistic, sociopath with no concern for anybody, but herself.
RUN!!! AND DONT LOOK BACK!!!!
It will only get worse. I know. I married one myself. It will ALWAYS ONLY be about them.
I'm starting to believe that very quickly. Today, some of folks at work told me that my wife pulled up in my parking lot and two spots away from my car but didn't get out? I saw a missed call from her as well. She did call last night and I didn't answer. I told my D she could answer if she wanted. My D said she didn't want to. I told her, hey that's up to you but eventually you're going to have to talk to her. Maybe that's what the wife wanted to call me about but somehow I think it's about me telling her to never contact me again except via email regarding my D.
M-41 ex-W-40 Together--17 years SS-20 D-14 Bomb--2 Feb 09 WAW--6 Feb 09 Officially divorced on 2 Jun 2010!!! ex-W has a boyfriend 8 Jun 2010!!! Off we go into the wild blue yonder!!!!
The wife called AGAIN yesterday. My D answered and talked to her for a while. She asked to talk with me but I told my D beforehand if she called I was unavailable. I took some Gucci advice and went out last night. I went to this establishment that has an event every Thursday called "little sundress night"(no, I wasn't the one wearing a sundress). Needless to say, WOW, there are a lot of women out there. I had a pretty good time and think I will continue to frequent this establishment as there were a lot of women and I mean a lot my age. I just kept acting like I was having a good time and I did. Good stuff.
M-41 ex-W-40 Together--17 years SS-20 D-14 Bomb--2 Feb 09 WAW--6 Feb 09 Officially divorced on 2 Jun 2010!!! ex-W has a boyfriend 8 Jun 2010!!! Off we go into the wild blue yonder!!!!
Very good. That's the ticket. Be happy, be confident, social interaction and have the time of your life. It really isn't rocket science. Millions of women out there looking for a man to love and to be loved by. Find one that thinks you "are all that." Much easier that way. It isn't worth wasting time on one that shows they don't want to be with you. It very seldom works to win them back when you can't show them you can and will live perfectly happy without them...
Yeah, I'll keep going out and will be more social. It is much better than wasting my time with this woman that doesn't seem to want me anymore.
Got an email from her today regarding my daughter. She wants to know if she's been working on her extra credit work that's due the 1st of school--this monday. Great time to check Mom! She's only been working on it for the last two weeks! She also says she wants to spend more time with her? Last time I checked I wasn't keeping her from seeing her D. Oh, wait, OM moved so NOW she has time and wants to spend time w/ her D, now that summer's over--great. Also, she wants to take her shopping for school supplies--yeah, a little late as well. Son of a ##%#$@#. Jeez, what the freak is her deal? I know she would not accept this type of behavior from me. I told her not to bother me unless it had to do w/ our daughter but this seems like the type of stuff she could talk to my D directly. This has nothing to do with custody, etc. Am I overeacting? I haven't responded to her email as there is no real request in it.
M-41 ex-W-40 Together--17 years SS-20 D-14 Bomb--2 Feb 09 WAW--6 Feb 09 Officially divorced on 2 Jun 2010!!! ex-W has a boyfriend 8 Jun 2010!!! Off we go into the wild blue yonder!!!!
Yes you are. First you tell her not to bother you unless it is about your daughter and then you complain about it when she does.
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I haven't responded to her email as there is no real request in it.
Correct. Stay on this path. Your track record shows that you cave to her at the slightest hint from her. That was one of the reasons I told you not to backslide. It will take longer now because of your past track record.
Hold the line. Show her that you meant what you said.
Yes you are. First you tell her not to bother you unless it is about your daughter and then you complain about it when she does.
Ok, you're right. If there is something legitimate to respond to I will and if not, I won't make it a big deal. Goes to the whole being unattached deal--apparently, I still have some work to do.
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I haven't responded to her email as there is no real request in it.
Correct. Stay on this path. Your track record shows that you cave to her at the slightest hint from her. That was one of the reasons I told you not to backslide. It will take longer now because of your past track record.
Got it and I can see how right you are now that I think about it.
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SOCIAL INTERACTION... very important.
Went out to dinner by myself last night as my D had a b-day party to go to. Sitting at the bar eating and started talking to nice couple next to me. They say hey, you look like someone we know, blah, blah, blah. Anyway, we get to the point where they ask if I'm married, single, etc. I say, I'm going divorce now. Oh, they say, well, we usually hang out at xyz with our friends and we have a couple of unattached girlfriends. We'll be there next weekend if you want to stop by. Ok, sounds good.
Yes, I'm enjoying social interaction. Finally, now that my head is out of the sand, I'm seeing a lot more opportunity to interact w/ other people.
Oh, funny stuff you said about holding the line--she emailed me at 3:17am about a book I talked about a few weeks ago. Once again, no response. My appointment with the lawyer is tomorrow.
Last edited by AFWAW; 08/23/0912:31 PM.
M-41 ex-W-40 Together--17 years SS-20 D-14 Bomb--2 Feb 09 WAW--6 Feb 09 Officially divorced on 2 Jun 2010!!! ex-W has a boyfriend 8 Jun 2010!!! Off we go into the wild blue yonder!!!!
I disagree with Gooch only a smidge. I do think that her statement about school supplies IS a specific request. Remember, she's a women, and Venus-speak of "Is it cold in here?" REALLY means, "Honey, can you get out of bed and change the thermostat and make it warmer?"
So I would respond to the school supplies thing (and any other similar request) with a chirpy "We have it handled; thanks!" Everything else, I would just ignore.
