then she asks me to sit down and see if i would agree to slow the process down for a month so we can talk..she said that everything is becoming real for her so she just wanted to slow things down.
Obviously, this is good. Time is your friend. Take this time to work on you (hopefully to CONTINUE to work on you).
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My wife said that her main issue was that she didnt want to have sex with me...no sexual feelings..she said she likes it when i hug her and that it feels good but it feels like a friend and not a lover.
A is a possibility (some will probably say likely). But, I can offer another possibility. I have heard the same things from my W - and read these same or similar words on others' threads.
My W is going through early menopause. Oddly (probably not), she began the "change" just before she says she started having questions about our M. I am NOT discounting the possibility that an A was or is present, but I have searched where there should be signs of an A, and the evidence just isn't there. And her behaviour is not consistent with an A either.
Any chance your W may be going through the "change" as well?
Also, a woman is not going to have "feelings" for a man (physical or otherwise) she does not respect. It has been a while since I read your sitch, but that issue is present in many of the threads here (including mine I velieve). I think the W in that sitch does not throw out or loose the "friend" feelings for the H b/c of children they have had together - no matter what, the couple will always have that tie.
