back after 10 weeks of recovery and need some help

[Doingitright]

Really need some advice...family vacation ends today. Wife wants to tell the kids about us getting a divorce this week. Kids start school in 2 weeks. W starts school in 1 week. I don't think it is a good time to discuss. Not that there is any good time to discuss such.

I am struggling right now. It has been a great vacation with the kids. W mostly removed from the sitch, reading or on her blackberry. Kids noticing both and busting her chops. My D is not happy with her always being on her BB. She said we are on vacation on a beach why is she on her BB? Kids are perceptive. I was amazed at how many people are on their phones while on the beach. It actually makes me feel ill to be on my phone while on the beach. I try to keep my phone as far away as possible. I left it in the room almost the whole vacation. It felt so damn good to stuff it a drawer and forget about it everyday.

W has beeen so damn moody. One minute e are having fun and the next she is walking away. The while vaca was only one of us doing something with the kids. We couldn't both be in the ocean with them or both be making a castle. Told W I had a problem with her blowing off kids requests to shoot the bull with her new friend she made at beach. She acknowledged and appologized.

It was a great vacation if I was taking the kids on vacation by myself. W did the hokie pokie in particpating in anything. As soon as we started having fun she checked out. She took no pictures of me and the kids unless I asked. She took pictures of the kids and had kids take pictures of her with her phone so she could up load to FB. She did not do much with the kids except the day I had to travel for work. Everything else was kids self service or me doing it for them. This is becoming more of the norm lately. Since moved into the seperate room I have tended to the kids more. I think her depression is securely in place. She slept in every day for the last 3 weeks. Kids say she is in bed til 9 or later every day. I saw it on the weekends for the last few weeks and now first hand on vaca. Bed at 9 or 9:30 every night on vaca is unheard of for the last 5 years. No tv no nothing except her book and us banished to the bedroom since she is sleeping in the living room on vaca. Well enough blah blah.