Tuesday's dinner would just be H, kids and in-laws-no ow so I would be perfectly comfortable and not run by emotion. It would be fine.(Our kids will never accept an invitation anywhere ow is and that's their choice. I don't enter into that. I certainly will never be in the same place as her.)
My concern is that by going to dinner I am saying to H it's ok to play happy family with his parents and ow and then his parents, kids and me.
The flip side is that I go and we have an enjoyable evening and H sees and feels that. I get along very well with his family.
D wants me there and I have yet to discuss with S. I will discuss with MIL tomorrow before I reply to H. I am just confused as to why H has included me!
