Just like Constantinople...

[notgoinggently]

Oh, and CP.... You can always catch a flight to Houston and then on to Vegas with us...The Greek Gods of TKE are ALWAYS welcoming (especially to the opposite sex!!)

But seriously, the trip to Vegas will probably take more planning than originally expected but will hopefully yield a much better turnout...I will keep you updated as it looms ahead though!

[cpfullofhope]

I'm sure she is thinking about it and is also probably scared to bring it up because of the "cloud" that follows that conversation. You need to have like 900 more normal happy conversations and wait for her to bring up a relationship conversation and then let her lead that conversation when it does come up. Probably one of the most difficult things you can ever do is wait, but it is also the most important. I am sure what happened when she left is her thinking more about you and wondering what you are up to because you didn't do "the usual". You probably peaked her interest a little, but you have to keep more of that going. Good Job!!!!

[cpfullofhope]

Oh, and I'm sure the Greek God's would love to have a 30 something mom along for the trip. You guys are going to have so much fun.

[notgoinggently]

Thanks for the kind words and advice CP...I really didnt know that it would mean so much to me just to have someone/someplace that I can go to and get all of my thoughts out of my head!

I will wait for her to bring up the "relationship" issue and then let her guide the conversation from there. My question now is...do I continue to let her contact me? At this point I think I should but hey, you never know!

[Virtually_Handsome]

My question now is...do I continue to let her contact me?

How does one not "let" her contact you? The question is how do you respond? I think you stay pretty detached. Polite, but not much beyond that. Don't respond immediately. If there's no response reqired, don't give one, at least part of the time.

[cpfullofhope]

I agree with handsome. You are polite and friendly but let her lead and stand back a bit, but in a confident way. When you have things going in your life it will be easier to do this, but until then "fake it until you make it".

[notgoinggently]

I will follow your advice to a "T" CP and you as well VH(virtually handsome takes WAY to long to type!!) And I believe that I meant to say something to the effect of..."should I answer the phone or not?"...in my previous post VH...the words sounded correct upstairs but didnt seem to work out well in the end!!

Hope you all have a great weekend, I am going to church tomorrow and so I might see her and I might not, she wasnt there last week so there is no telling. Talk to you guys later!

[Virtually_Handsome]

Answering the phone....

Don't NOT answer the phone. But don't necessarily answer every time. Let her see that you are not sitting around waiting.

[cpfullofhope]

GG (Greek God- that's my new name for you)

H and I have a kid together so the phone thing is a little more tricky. I answer cause I would be pretty pissed if he had my S and didn't answer on purpose. But, sometimes I miss the call and call back in a few minutes, or I say a quick hi and hand phone off to S.

Main thing it not to act like you have been waiting around for the call and not to expect ANYTHING. So hard to do, but so important. Your expectations will come through in your tone, etc. Keep it upbeat and casual.

[notgoinggently]

CP couldnt be more right about it being hard to put up that facade. I saw her this morning in church, was polite but didnt make small talk, I only responded to what she said to me and I kept it brief.
I know this is what I am supposed to be doing but, i feel like an ass when I do it!
I thought it was a telling thing that happened in church today though. The sermon was about how we describe god, or what do you need god to be in YOUR life right now. At the end of it all, the pastor handed out those sticky name tags and told us each to write on there the name that you need god to be in your life (if your alone, put down friend. If your scared, write down protector, etc...) So I glance over at what my wife wrote down and I see that she had written down "Guidance". I guess I just didnt believe that she is confused.

This whole time i truly thought that I was the only one conflicted and confused. I was sure that she didnt think twice about her decision or if she second guesses herself. After seeing that I realized she doesnt have a clue what she wants or how to go about getting it!

then again, maybe I am reading to far into it.

VH, I will make sure I answer the phone but I will play it cool and I wont always make myself available to her! Thanks for keeping up with this soap opera I call my life!

CP, I humbly accept the name change due to it describing me so well (at least in my head thats what I see!!) Great to hear from you, how is life in FL? What fun things have you done lately? Take care and I hope to hear from you soon!!