Ashlee- Thanks for the update. I can so relate to your comment about God's will. I also feel it is God's will for my marriage to work and I struggle daily to hand that over to him. Not an easy task when your spouse is doing hurtful things and there is no consistent change for the better. I worry that it is going to be a long hall for both of us. Well, mine has already been over a year, but there's all the addiction stuff going on there.
I don't know what to tell you about the letter to OW H. I called and talked to the OW H in my case and he seemed concerned, etc, but now he and my H are friends and talking again. I think OW convinced him I was crazy and jealous of their friendship... not sure. So, I guess I am glad I did it because I felt I had information he did not and as her H he deserved to know. But, I also think I was expecting him to put an end to contact and that didn't happen at all. No regrets. Except, I wish I had kept some evidence of the exact content of the messages between the two so he would believe me.
It sounds like you work off a spiritual basis, so I say pray about it and see how you feel. Keep us posted on how you are even if you don't have anything great to say
