Hello Kittyfish & Sandi2!

[BigJohn]

Hey Big John, just checking in to see how you are doing. So, how does the W like tough love? Bet she is surprised at your 180 b/c she's been spoiled by BJ's sweet ways in the past and by getting her "princess" ways. I hope she is seeing that it is not cracked up to be all she thought!

I know you love her and it's hard doing what you are....but you know you have to BJ. Don't cave on her birthday, just remember that you have to act like you are S and don't do things "for the sake of the kids" b/c it will put you in a defeated place with your W. Be tough!

Sandi,

So far my W doesn't like it one bit. Right now she is pissed off with me about a follow up discussion I had with her tonight about her moving out to an apartment. She tried using the "it wouldn't be fair to the kids" argument followed by "I'm not going anywhere." I told her I'm not going anywhere either to which she responded "we will see about that, I'm going to get legal advice next week." I told her that I already had.

Apparently my W thinks that I- the primary breadwinner for the family- should move out of the house that I alone remodeled for our family, that I have maintained a home office in continuously for the last 11 years so that she can enjoy majority custody of the kids while continuing her EA and remaining underemployed. "You can see them on the weekends" she says.

I told my W that she is done wiping her feet on me and the rest of the family with her EA, her attitude, everything. I'm DONE with her crap! If she thinks she is going to get away with giving everyone the middle finger and have everything go her way just like in the movies she is wrong. Boy is she in for a rude awakening.

You know, up until recently I was opposed to physical separation with my W because I really wanted her to see my efforts and hard work and try to consider reconciliation with me. But she just doesn't want anything to do with me right now. In fact, as much as it hurts to say it, she is just being a flat out b*tch. So I'm looking forward to S with my W for the time being and hoping that she won't make it too messy.