Next day - he didn't call all day. Said he was "out of cell phone range". VEry unlike him and quite suspicious. I fear an OW. Instead of talking bout it, I simply asked him again to please tell me a specific plan for tomorrow. He keeps resisting this, I am not reacting, but I am being clear and firm about my desire even though he is blowing me off. I hope this is not engaging him too much, or "pursuing". Meanwhile, trying to self soothe and not panic about imagining an OW. If he is off having a day to himself, I am trying to hold postitive thoughts that he is taking care of himself. That can only be good. However, I am resentful that he will not give me a time when he will show up or call, but I refuse to argue. Part of me thinks the best 180 is to not talk to him at all when he disappears, but the other part of me says I need to be clear and firm in my needs. Or like I said, is this not being detached enough? Thoughts?
