Need Advice, WAW wants to give it a month

[trrose]

Hello all,
Looks like we all have been through one hell of a ride. There have been some developments and I really need advice and perspective.
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We went to SC on vacation for 2 weeks and everything went pretty well all things considered. By pretty well I mean that we were amiable to one another yet we sure werent loving.

My wife and i didnt say anything to each other for the first two days...tension a little high. then we went for a drink and she confirmed that she wanted out.
we had some conversations on the beach but she bought 3 books on divorce and would often go for naps while i was playing with the kids.

Part of the time we stayed with my mother in law who knows what is going on. I found it so weird that my m in law didnt say anything to me at all...so i rode over to where she worked...we chatted in her office for about 20 minutes and she was as bewildered with her daughters behavior as everyone else is

Fast forward to yesterday...we had a couple of Realtors over to look at the place...she had a conversation with a close friend who is religious and doesnt believe in divorce...she met with her lawyer....then she asks me to sit down and see if i would agree to slow the process down for a month so we can talk..she said that everything is becoming real for her so she just wanted to slow things down.

I was a little startled with the about face but I agreed that I would slow the process down for a month and see if we could make some headway...but that i would keep the meeting that i had with my lawyer yesterday..

My wife said that her main issue was that she didnt want to have sex with me...no sexual feelings..she said she likes it when i hug her and that it feels good but it feels like a friend and not a lover.
as always my preference is for us to work things out...but i really need advice on how to make my wife love me again and also the 180 in her behavior seems a little odd