Ok. Picked up a tent this am with S9. S and D5 "helped me set it up in our backyard. W has no idea its there. I'm going to wait on her to find it. Then tell her she's welcome to join us when we "camp out" tonight.
W finally saw the tent. Her usual first question would have been "well, how much did that cost?" But she didn't ask that this time. She jokingly said the "tent fairy" must have visited us.
I just said, somewhat slyly, that yeah, the kids and I are going to camp out tonight and that she was welcome to join us. She said no, she would sleep indoors - she said it in a humorous tone. She does have a head cold still. Regardless, no big deal, the kids and I will have fun.
Later, when I was setting up the rain tarp for the tent, she came out to help me. She agreed it was a pretty cool tent. I could just tell the "how much did it cost" question was driving her nuts. She helped me finishe putting it up, then asked how much it cost. I said $XX (less than $100), and although she did not say anything, I could see her grimmace (I don't think she knew I could see her do that). I didn't show anything, but it sort of pi$$ed me off. Not too much, but this has always been an issue with us. Definitely something we will have to work on if we reconcile (say "if" not "when" so as not to have any expectations). But, honestly, I don't care right now about how much the dam$ tent cost. The kids and I will have fun, and I didn't buy an expensive one. So to he!! with what she thinks right now.
Anyway, W is still in a good mood. We will have to see if she really doesn't join us in the tent tonight. Especially after we do smores. Her loss if she doesn't. Should be a lot of fun. I don't know who's more excited - the kids or me.
Woo hoo! I'm enjoying those s'mores vicariously. Re: the tent and the $. Yeah, blow it off, or after you've used it a few times, break the math down. Use it for 4 weekends a year (8 days) and it's 12.50/day divided by 3 ppl. Not a bad deal, all in all.
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Had fun camping out in the yard last night. W slept in the house. She said she got up every hour to check on us.
Anyway, no complaining from her about the tent purchase. Don't care if she does. The kids and I will enjoy have fun with it. We are already planning a real camping outing in the mountains. Won't be surprised if W joins.
W has been very pleasant all day. Like a real close friend. And she looks great today. Really. Nothing special clothes wise, but she just looks fantastic.
Ok, just noticed after my run that W has been wearing perfume today. We were not planning on going anywhere today and haven't. She's never just worn perfume without a reason.
Hmmmmm. Not gonna assume she's wearing it for me. Just unusual.
Well, pleasant evening. W really talked a lot to me tonight. She has some freelance work coming up this week and needed my input on a project estimate she has to provide.
I usually head back to bed on a "school night" around 10:00. But, I could sense she wanted to keep the conversation going at that time. So, I hung around, listened, asked questions and answered her questions. Then, around 11:00, I said I was going to turn in. So, I said good night and left her in the den to continue working on her project proposal.
I am going to focus on staying disciplined in my approach towards my W. As much as I want to tell her, ILY, or just walk up and hug her, I won't. I will continue to be positive, funny and patient with her, and all those things plus unashamedly loving towards my two, beautiful children. AND, I WILL BE HAPPY B/C I DESERVE TO BE.
Don't know how this will all play out, but I'm still hanging in there. Trying to coax the kitty to jump in my lap.
Re: the tent and the $. Yeah, blow it off, or after you've used it a few times, break the math down. Use it for 4 weekends a year (8 days) and it's 12.50/day divided by 3 ppl. Not a bad deal, all in all.