It's even crazier now

[mishka422]

Good grief Tom! She is certifiable.

I'm glad you have had so much going on to keep you busy and distracted from the crazy situation you are in.

You can't get D'd until after the baby is born? Is that some kind of KY law? I've never heard of that one!

Serves her right that the OM has left her. Of course, he shouldn't have ever been the OM in the first place so he's getting what he deserves too.

Tom, you are an amazing man with so much love for your children. It's positively inspiring to hear how much you do for and with them. Keep it up! You da MAN Tom!

[marriedCrazy]

It's the law in GA too. Also in IN and OH.

[mishka422]

WILD!!!! I had no idea. Honestly, I was pretty relieved that my xh's OW had to have a hysterectomy last June just so I wouldn't have to go through all of that extra trauma.

I'm praying for you Tom. I know you will come through all of this craziness with flying colors and with your kids happy and well adjusted.

[Babygirl]

hey friend, WOW is all I can say. it seems we never get a break from bad stuff do we? know I am thinking and praying for you and LE too.

hugs and love and lots of prayers, hug the kiddos for me!

[marriedCrazy]

Hey all who remember me:

I was on the board at the request of a friend and thought i would at least update what's going on.

The W has been spending a lot of time with the kids since I've been really busy with work travel. She has been staying over at the house. Her R with OM has fizzled out and she now wants to work on the M. Her open honesty has been refreshing; but I'm leery that it is only to win favor for me. I'm not certain that it is a wholesale change in her behavior. I told her that I do not want to save the M. Mainly because of her "love child" and all the damage that was done. Also, I'm happy with myself and my life right now.

A friend of mine sent me a link to forgiveness and watching for repentance. It was the story of Jacob sold into slavery and while he was Pharaoh he never let on to his brothers who he was. He consistently watched his brothers before he let them back into his life. So I'm doing with my W; I still want the divorce. She needs to learn how to live without a man in her life. She needs to learn how to provide for herself.

If sometime down the road; provided that I haven't found another person, I might entertain the idea of us trying again. But only if she's healed and wants to be together; not needing to be together.

We are getting along great. We are very candid with each other. She readily accepts her fault in this and the communication is very open. All of this is refreshing for our R; as it will benefit the kids.

Take care y'all!!

[mishka422]

Wow Tom! Good to 'see' you around. I often wonder how things are going for you.

Thanks for the update!

Glad you are able to have a cordial R w/W while maintaining your detatchment.

Take care!

[marriedCrazy]

Hey Mish..thanks...

you know; when you're curious...you can always message me in the alt.

[poet]

Hey Tom,

Thank you for the update. I've chatted with you in the Other universe and wondered where you went. I don't remember your name in the Other universe, so I guess you could have been there, and I didn't know it.

Good to hear from you.
poet

[pollyanna]

Tom it is great to catch up with you. I often wonder how things are going. I seem to constantly miss you on FB.

You sound good and i like the way that you will at least observe W. It wouls take a tremendous man to take on this love child and it would be a huge leap of faith for you.

I am with you. You are not in a hurry to get anywhere so dont rush.

ReAlly glad you sound good

[Sam1007]

Hey MC,

Heard about your sitch from Amy in the alt. THought I'd check in on you. All I can say is WOW! But you do sound as if you're clear about what you want at this point, so let W do all the work for a change.

Keep up the PMA!