Thanks 25!!!! Well, I had forewarned H that he must have permission to take them out of the country but I don't know that it registered. I have ALL of their documents with me so I doubt he could even get them passports without my assistance. Honestly, I have NO reason to think this will get out of hand but I will be mindful as usual.
Retrouvaille. Funny you mentioned it. I do think about it and feel sad when I see it in other people's sitches. I even called once. A while back I had mentioned it vaguely to H just to say in all honesty that it would be for both of us to know that we did everything we could. He sort of took it in. When brought up again, he said he just couldn't go away with me for a weekend, would be too weird.
Not sure now, I still think that prior to filing it might be wroth suggesting. At this point they might have a harder time with me than him...I just don't know how I could ever trust and feel safe with him again but I would go if he would. It would be just as hard for me, so we'd be in it together. Would be frightening to make myself vulnerable to him again. I mean, with the IMago, I poured my heart out and it felt horrible after to ML and feel so much understanding between us and have him subsequently say that doing those exercises just aren't who he is...it feels to weird, fake...etc. which I actually relate to but sh*t if it works (which it did) I'll suck it up and do it. There have been numerous things that have helped. I think his ego and sense of fulfilling his destiny makes him resent any prospect that stands a likelihood of bringing us together. Sick and sad...he has really dug himself in.
Anyway, it is remarkable to me that you brought it up because I have tried to ward off any thoughts of it in the midst of my detachment. It is hard to walk that tight-rope.
I would LOVE to come see your stand-up!
I'll find you on FB.
Glad your daughter is okay! Scary, right??? Makes you really remember what is important.
