mil may "side" with her grandchildren, not her d or you. Don't assume too much, but make it clear that YOUR priorities are your children's happiness, and that you love your w very much, which we all can see.
I too love my kids. I have a s23 and a d20 (and a much younger one too) But if one of them pulled this stunt on "my" grandkids and or their own spouse, don't think I would not come down hard on MY kid,
and I'd get them help if that was what was called for, but if it were an MLC or some other sane but selfish thing, I'd openly advocate for the M....I have seen this work with my own family when my oldest brother got an ego "virus" and wanted OW and a div from a great w, and we all just clamped down and said "WTH are you doing?" and he eventually got it. Finally, 5 months later he stopped acting like a fool. And the OW was embarrassed to learn we ALL were not "okay" with her, and she wanted out then, so I have seen family pressure work well.
Don't bad mouth your w to MIL, that is a bad idea. But that's a lot diff than asking for help with keeping the family together. See the diff?
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M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
